Comments on: Harper Eliot’s Guide to Surviving Drop Alone https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/ Putting eroticism in context Wed, 05 Jun 2013 16:23:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Harper Eliot https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-2142 Harper Eliot Tue, 03 Jul 2012 18:15:08 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-2142 Glad to be of assistance.

]]> By: k.t. https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-2141 k.t. Tue, 03 Jul 2012 04:23:17 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-2141 I don’t know how I ended up here, but so glad that I did. I finally have a name to go with what I have been experiencing. Thank you for providing hints that I will put into practice.

]]> By: Harper Eliot https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-2072 Harper Eliot Mon, 04 Jun 2012 06:35:28 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-2072 Oh God yes. I can imagine this one; well, I mean I went through it after Eroticon as well. Amazing, different-from-everyday-life events do leave you with some drop to consider, absolutely.

]]> By: Dangerous Lilly https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-2071 Dangerous Lilly Mon, 04 Jun 2012 02:05:15 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-2071 One of the types of drop that I’ve actually felt most often (since I’m no longer very kinky) is con-drop. It applied to my two weekends at MomentumCon so heavily. It was intense and different and so not at all like every day life. It was a glorious few days of being surrounded by all these lovely people who were so much like me and for two days we all got to say things outloud that we usually can’t say outloud to our coworkers and vanilla friends. Coming home the first year I felt it immediately as I left for home. Afterwards, both years, it was a mixture of euphoria (remembering it all) and sadness (missing it all). Real life felt so dull and bland after.

]]> By: Harper Eliot https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-2004 Harper Eliot Mon, 21 May 2012 19:55:59 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-2004 You absolutely are not! And substitute coffee for tea, yoga for walking, menthol for liquorice, and we almost have the same after-care routine. So important to identify, deal and enjoy. Kink is too fun to ruin for ourselves with inadequate aftercare.

]]> By: Saskia https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-1993 Saskia Sun, 20 May 2012 22:42:51 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-1993 How did I only just stumble across this post? I must catch up on everyone’s blogs..
This is beautiful, amazing advice. I find that when I have the drop my only cures are coffee, fruit (particularly berries!), sleep, attempting some yoga (watching a video and trying one pose usually!), a nice methol cigarette, sometimes a silly little cry over what’s usually nothing and curling up on my sofa watching some ridiculous trash. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in having these drops. :)
xoxo

]]> By: Harper Eliot https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-1979 Harper Eliot Sat, 19 May 2012 08:38:00 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-1979 Thank you! I hope it’s helpful to those who need it.

]]> By: His Girl https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-1977 His Girl Fri, 18 May 2012 19:35:41 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-1977 This is so well-written. And such good advice.

]]> By: Harper Eliot https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-1936 Harper Eliot Sun, 13 May 2012 10:28:52 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-1936 Thank you! I really appreciate those additions. It seems obvious, but I really hadn’t considered how helpful it is to remember, happily what has happened.

And I wish I was more able to discuss top-drop as well, but I think the thing to keep in mind with any kind of drop is that it’s not about being physically hurt or used, it’s about coming out of an intense and possibly transgressive place. Stands to reason that everyone involved will feel the drop.

]]> By: Abel https://itgirlragdoll.com/harper-eliots-guide-to-surviving-drop-alone/#comment-1935 Abel Sun, 13 May 2012 08:10:39 +0000 https://itgirlragdoll.com/?p=2457#comment-1935 So refreshing to see a post that recognises that top-drop exists, in the same way as sub-drop. Perhaps, if I might add a couple that work for me to the list:

- Remembering. Smiling at what you’ve done together. Realising how good it was. Replaying it. (Don’t think that you have to try to forget all about it. If it was wonderful, celebrate that!)

- Realism. Knowing that, although you wish it could have gone on – that it could still be going on – that the real world has to intervene sometimes. If all you had was kinky play, life would be a dull place.

- Looking forward. There’ll be other wonderful times to come. You may be missing your partner dreadfully, and regretting being on your own right now, but if this past scene was so wonderful, the next one will be special too.

Great post. Very thought-provoking.

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