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By: Sex ed for adults, munches, and emotional masochism « yellowbelliedmarmot

Sex ed for adults, munches, and emotional masochism « yellowbelliedmarmot — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 03:55:56 +0000

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By: LadyGrinSoul

LadyGrinSoul — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 21:42:35 +0000

I think you’re so right here. I’m currently trying to write a (somewhat playful) piece about how NOT to fall in love, and specifically in situations where you want some intimacy with someone, but aren’t in a good place to be “in love”. Of course, all I can offer – really – are my own personal suggestions and observations, but maybe it will add to the conversation here. If you have any ideas yourself feel free to get in touch with me. The more voices, the closer we are to finding our own personal solutions, I reckon.

By: Bianca

Bianca — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 12:48:04 +0000

Here here! I definitely feel myself falling into those “timelines” even with partners who are very clearly just in it for play/sex/fun. I want to de-program myself from it, and I wonder how exactly the best way to do that is. I suppose acknowledging it is a good step? I’m also kind of hoping that crazy, I-just-met-you-lets-fuck-and-then-be-long-distance friends con-sex stuff is going to help.

But I’m definitely no fan of waiting for the phone to ring and basing my entire life around what my partner is doing or not doing with or without me. I think the people that do engage in a lot of that mostly need more friends to hang out with- you can’t expect your man to spend every waking second with you!

By: LadyGrinSoul

LadyGrinSoul — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 14:01:08 +0000

Indeed indeed. I still love that show, but Carrie annoys the hell out of me a lot. I seriously hope no one’s taking her as gospel! I think it is becoming less relevant, definitely. particularly the early series. But as I say… I still like it! Can’t help enjoying it.

By: Dalide Barthez

Dalide Barthez — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 13:53:06 +0000

This is what I needed to read, and I’m very glad that you decided to write about it. I’m still waiting for my copy of He’s Just Not That Into You to arrive at the bookstore, and I am very keen on reading it.

It’s interesting that you point out Sex and The City as a source for these insecurities in women. They recently started repeating SATC over here, and, whilst watching, I came to the conclusion that some of the “issues” in the show are terribly dated and irrelevant. Yet women still take this show as gospel! I realise I might not be the only one coming to this conclusion, but I feel quite strongly about it, seeing as I used to be one of these women.

Jill(y) xx

By: Clarabelle

Clarabelle — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 14:35:31 +0000

you’re reply made me laugh out loud. It IS riduculous. *grins* Hang onto you’re hats (and hide your expensive shoes) the resurgence of intelligencia amongst educated women COULD change a thing or two in this world. About as likely as Marxism but it gives me hope …

By: LadyGrinSoul

LadyGrinSoul — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 13:24:25 +0000

Precisely! and I am ecstatic to have figured it out before the ulcers set in. It’s ridiculous. Still have to sort out the debt; hmm… but at least my money’s going to the Royal Opera House and not shoes… still. Damn women.

By: Clarabelle

Clarabelle — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 13:13:10 +0000

Insightful, thoughtful and scarily accurate. I’m married to a monosyllabic, non-materialistic (amongst other things no trinket-giving) man who travels extensively for work. Love is about compromise and understanding. It ain’t what they tell you on Sex in the City (and other series’), that will only get you ulcers and debt lol not happiness. Are we as a sex so inherently insecure? *SIGH*

By: LadyGrinSoul

LadyGrinSoul — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 22:36:26 +0000

*grins* And here was me thinking YOU wrote the perfect-for-the-day article. Thanks hun!