Category Archives: Articles

Dominance and Submission As Informed By Gender Roles

by Harper Eliot Posted on 11/10/2012

Disclaimer: most of the information and knowledge in this article on gender and gender roles comes from a lecture I attended last year given by an expert on gender theory in literature. Due to the nature of this site and … Continue reading →

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Erotic Fiction Without Sexual Arousal: Attempting the Impossible

by Harper Eliot Posted on 02/10/2012

Sex sells. There are no two ways about it. It’s why Bond girls adorn the opening credits in, at most, skintight catsuits. It’s why Sophie Dahl caused such a stir posing for YSL (above). It’s (at least in part) why … Continue reading →

Posted in Art, Articles, In Mind, National Novel Writing Month, Writing | Tagged Bond, Fifty Shades of Grey, NaNoWriMo, National Novel Writing Month, Politics, Religions, Sex, Sophie Dahl, The Sun, Twilight, YSL, Zoe Margolis | 11 Comments

Education is an issue for sex writers too.

by Harper Eliot Posted on 01/09/2012

Erotic artists and sex bloggers are often joined by the same issues. Whether it be feminism, sexual freedom, censorship, Fifty Shades of Grey or Republican politicians who seem to think they have a right to say what American women should … Continue reading →

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Honest Dating: Class

by Harper Eliot Posted on 01/07/2012

When it comes to dating there is no denying that it can be tough out there and I can’t decide whether the advent of the internet has simplified things or made them more complicated. On the one hand, you can … Continue reading →

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The Mental Playground

by Harper Eliot Posted on 13/06/2012

It was a few months ago that I was awakened to the idea of the mind as an utterly free playground; a space where all your wildest, sickest, most twisted ideas could manifest and run wild; a place where no … Continue reading →

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Lather, Rinse, Repeat.

by Harper Eliot Posted on 19/05/2012

Earlier this week channel four broadcasted a show titled Sex, Lies and Rinsing Guys. For a start I found it interesting that the word ‘sex’ was in the title of this show – perhaps that displays something of the producers’ … Continue reading →

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Harper Eliot’s Guide to Surviving Drop Alone

by Harper Eliot Posted on 10/05/2012

In light of several conversations on twitter and some of my own personal experiences, I have been considering drop. Sub-drop in particular, although top-drop too. And, as I feel sure exist, various other kinds of drop. For those of you … Continue reading →

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Safe Words and Responsible Authorship

by Harper Eliot Posted on 11/04/2012

The first article of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights is rarely quoted in full. We often hear: All human beings are born free and equal (in dignity and rights). This opening line is, of course, extremely important. The question … Continue reading →

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Voice and the Author

by Harper Eliot Posted on 13/03/2012

After last week’s article on identity and pseudonyms I have been giving a lot of thought to the reasons sex writers so often hide behind fake identities. When it comes to sex bloggers – who I defined as those who … Continue reading →

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The Pseudonym Problem, or Why You Can No Longer See Me Naked

by Harper Eliot Posted on 08/03/2012

Saturday 3rd March was a day of realisations and new consciousness; over the course of the twelve hours I spent at Eroticon I suddenly became aware of so many truths and complexities inherent in writing about sex, and most of … Continue reading →

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