Category Archives: Personal Experiences

British Summer Time

by Harper Eliot Posted on 18/06/2013

Whilst we wish for sun and Summer and swimming and sweat, and watch the days roll by overcast and grey, this image still makes me smile; with a touch of longing. Love Bites Taken on the Southbank, London, outside the … Continue reading →

Posted in Art, Articles & News, London, Personal Experiences, Photography | Tagged blue, bridge, British Summer Time, couple, National Theatre, Queen Elizabeth Hall, South Bank Centre, Southbank, Summer, Thames, yellow | Leave a comment

Joan Price’s Three Lists of 10s

by Harper Eliot Posted on 15/06/2013

It was listening to Joan Price on the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast that I was introduced to the three lists idea. Joan suggested that when dating, a good way to go about it is to break down the things you … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles & News, Dating, Online Dating, Personal Experiences, Relationships & Dating | Tagged dating, Joan Price, must-haves, non-monogamy, podcasts, projects, relationships | 4 Comments

An Open Letter to Modern Female Feminists

by Harper Eliot Posted on 11/06/2013

Dear feminists, I am a twenty-three year old, white, middle class, cis-gendered female, living in London. And I cannot, in all good conscience, call myself a feminist. Yes, I do believe that I should have the same rights and the … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles & News, Life Lessons, Personal Experiences | Tagged equality, female, feminism, feminists, male, men, modern women, suffragettes, women | 16 Comments

Three Sketches in London

by Harper Eliot Posted on 08/06/2013

Sketches: 1. Chinatown Tucked tight in the corner, shadowed in oak, seconds ticked over as his fingers traced my neck. The skin and bones; the nerves and veins. My flesh malleable, caught in the pinch of his hunger. He found … Continue reading →

Posted in Fiction & Erotica, Kink, Fetish, BDSM & Other Transgressive Sexualities, London, Personal Experiences | Tagged Chinatown, date, Ds, London, ownership. BDSM, Soho, Southbank | 5 Comments

The Biggest Thank You: I am going to Eroticon USA!

by Harper Eliot Posted on 07/06/2013

If you follow me on twitter, you may have already spotted the big news: I am going to Eroticon USA! I managed to get myself a week off work, and two days ago I booked my flights. I am utterly … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles & News, Eroticon, News, Personal Experiences | Tagged Atlanta, conference, Eroticon, Eroticon USA, fundraising, GoFundMe, thank you, trip | 8 Comments

Being in the Closet(s)

by Harper Eliot Posted on 05/06/2013

Yesterday I read this excellent article by Aggie at Solopoly, about being in or coming out of the poly closet. You can read the article for yourself, but – in a nutshell – it discusses the pros and cons of … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles & News, Life Lessons, Personal Experiences, Relationships & Dating, Writing/Writing Exercises | Tagged being out, colleagues, in the closet, non-monogamy, polyamory, sex writing, work | 4 Comments

Lies in Amateur Porn

by Harper Eliot Posted on 06/05/2013

Stole in at starlight,

Posted in Fiction & Erotica, Personal Experiences, Philosophy, Politics, & Society, Poetry, Writing/Writing Exercises | 4 Comments

From May to December: Reflections on Dating Older Men

by Harper Eliot Posted on 26/04/2013

For the past four years or so, I have been exclusively dating older men. Some just five, or seven, or nine years older, and some… well, significantly older than that. And really, when I say “older men,” I mean those … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles & News, Dating, Life Lessons, Personal Experiences | Tagged dating, experience, May to December, older men, online | 12 Comments

A Token of Gratitude: Send Me to Eroticon USA!

by Harper Eliot Posted on 25/04/2013

My dearest, darling readers and friends – As many of you may know, I am trying to raise money in order to get myself across the pond to Atlanta for Eroticon USA in October. I have already received some amazing … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles & News, Eroticon, News, Personal Experiences | Tagged Atlanta, conference, Eroticon USA, GoFundMe, trip, USA, writers | 3 Comments

Why What I Write is Not Erotica

by Harper Eliot Posted on 04/04/2013

A few weeks ago I submitted my story ‘For a Few Dollars More’ to Ether Books. The story tells of a young prostitute’s interactions with two very different customers, and deals with a very intense non-consensual scenario. Filling out my … Continue reading →