Category Archives: Relationships & Dating

The User Manual

The personal user manual is an idea I got from Cunning Minx on her podcast, Polyamory Weekly. It’s a great podcast, and I love Minx’s no-bullshit, straightforward approach to non-monogamy. Her own user manual is a great read, and acted … Continue reading

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The Marriage Service [Edited]

Last weekend I posted a very drunken Audioboo as I stood outside a beautiful estate house in the country, inside which one of my closest (and youngest) friends was dancing with his new bride. In this Audioboo I claimed that … Continue reading

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Being in the Closet(s)

Yesterday I read this excellent article by Aggie at Solopoly, about being in or coming out of the poly closet. You can read the article for yourself, but – in a nutshell – it discusses the pros and cons of … Continue reading

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Online Dating: Filling out an OkCupid profile

Writing dating profiles is not an easy task, which is probably why, when you’re browsing dating sites, you come across so many half-arsed, haphazard profiles. Perhaps there’s also an air of ‘I don’t want to look like I’m trying too … Continue reading

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Pandarus: the gatekeeper of consent

Chaucer’s main source material when he wrote his epic poem Troilus and Criseyde was Boccaccio’s Il Filostrato. In Il Filostrato Troilio is a rather straightforward young man who pursues the beautiful Cressida and meets with little resistance. Their coming together … Continue reading

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Honest Dating: Class

When it comes to dating there is no denying that it can be tough out there and I can’t decide whether the advent of the internet has simplified things or made them more complicated. On the one hand, you can … Continue reading

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Lather, Rinse, Repeat.

Earlier this week channel four broadcasted a show titled Sex, Lies and Rinsing Guys. For a start I found it interesting that the word ‘sex’ was in the title of this show – perhaps that displays something of the producers’ … Continue reading

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Harper Eliot’s Guide to Surviving Drop Alone

In light of several conversations on twitter and some of my own personal experiences, I have been considering drop. Sub-drop in particular, although top-drop too. And, as I feel sure exist, various other kinds of drop. For those of you … Continue reading

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