Category Archives: Relationships & Dating

Being in the Closet(s)

Yesterday I read this excellent article by Aggie at Solopoly, about being in or coming out of the poly closet. You can read the article for yourself, but – in a nutshell – it discusses the pros and cons of … Continue reading

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Online Dating: Filling out an OkCupid profile

Writing dating profiles is not an easy task, which is probably why, when you’re browsing dating sites, you come across so many half-arsed, haphazard profiles. Perhaps there’s also an air of ‘I don’t want to look like I’m trying too … Continue reading

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Pandarus: the gatekeeper of consent

Chaucer’s main source material when he wrote his epic poem Troilus and Criseyde was Boccaccio’s Il Filostrato. In Il Filostrato Troilio is a rather straightforward young man who pursues the beautiful Cressida and meets with little resistance. Their coming together … Continue reading

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Honest Dating: Class

When it comes to dating there is no denying that it can be tough out there and I can’t decide whether the advent of the internet has simplified things or made them more complicated. On the one hand, you can … Continue reading

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Lather, Rinse, Repeat.

Earlier this week channel four broadcasted a show titled Sex, Lies and Rinsing Guys. For a start I found it interesting that the word ‘sex’ was in the title of this show – perhaps that displays something of the producers’ … Continue reading

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Harper Eliot’s Guide to Surviving Drop Alone

In light of several conversations on twitter and some of my own personal experiences, I have been considering drop. Sub-drop in particular, although top-drop too. And, as I feel sure exist, various other kinds of drop. For those of you … Continue reading

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Safe Words and Responsible Authorship

The first article of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights is rarely quoted in full. We often hear: All human beings are born free and equal (in dignity and rights). This opening line is, of course, extremely important. The question … Continue reading

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The (Female) Phenomenon of Emotional Masochism

It has been said, in various different ways, by several clever people, that where men are intellectual, women move in “curves of emotion”. Of course, there are exceptions to this statement, and there are those who purposefully try to bring … Continue reading

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